Disciplining your teenagers involves (1) understanding “teen logic,” (2) handling your anger appropriately and avoiding contention whenever possible, and (3) maintaining consistency.

	To discipline your teenagers, you need to understand how they think. They are part adult, part child, and part alien. Their logic is different from yours.
	Controlling anger. What to do about discipline when your teenager makes you angry, which will happen.
	Be consistent in your discipline of your teenagers. This may require taking some unpopular positions for the good of your teenager.

In addition to these three key concepts, you should know how to handle the most common areas for family fights:

	Curfews for teenagers - Teenager curfews need to be consistent, specific, and enforced.
	Dress standards for teenagers - Dress and makeup standards should be simple: anything clean and modest is okay, and nothing irreversible is permitted.
	Telephone and e-mail use for teenagers

Finally, you must be able to set appropriate consequences for unacceptable actions. You must help your teens, with their incomplete brains, to understand cause and effect. Somehow, you must convince them that if they pick up one end of a stick, they pick up the other.