"You invest yourself in another person with your life, your trust with your hope and dreams and when you find out those good things you've invested in have been manipulated and you've been used, that leaves a horrific scar," said Maryann Bruin.

The authors say notable examples of emotional abusers include Mark Hacking who lied and deceived his family and ultimately ended up killing his wife Lori…Joe Waldholtz who went to prison for stealing from family members and affected his wife Enid's political career, and bomber Mark Hoffman who masterminded a forgery scheme and ultimately ended up killing two people.

In all three cases, family members say they were unaware of the lies and manipulation the author's say, that's not uncommon.

"If you take cases like Mark Hoffman's wife Dorrie Olds and Lori Hacking and you see there were signs, that those things were occurring, but sometimes we want desperately for our relationships to work out, even though those signs come up, we don't hit them in the face," said Fay Klingler.

There are signs that someone is an emotional abuser: Their words don't match their actions They are often unreasonably defensive They have a tendency to minimize problems A sense of unreasonable entitlement Often act agitated

Emotional abuse isn't just between spouses it can happen between business partners, friends or parents and their children.

The authors say victims can heal once they make the decision to face the truth and stand up for themselves.

"This is what I stand for, this is what I believe in. will you go there with me and if not, I'll go there without you," said Klingler. "An Evening of Emotional Abuse Awareness" is a program that will take place Saturday evening and will include information and resources for emotional abuse victims.

Thelma Soares said last Monday she felt shattered and betrayed to the very core because her daughter was killed by the man who made covenants to love and protect her. Interestingly, a new book is coming out next month called "Shattered." Thelma Soares wrote the foreword.

At Mark Hacking's sentencing hearing his mother-in-law, Thelma Soares, spoke openly about Hacking's betrayal. In a statement she said, "I loved that young man as if he were my own son, so his betrayal is profound."

Fay Klingler, Co-Author of "Shattered": "She'll feel that for a very long time. She'll probably feel that the rest of her life."

Fay Klinger co-authored the book "Shattered", which details six steps to help people recover from betrayal.

Fay Klingler: "Anyone who has experienced betrayal from the simple to the major go through those same steps."

The steps include becoming aware of the betrayal, taking action and learning to stand up for yourself, and advancing your life and moving forward toward your goals. But that can be hard if you've been severely betrayed.

Dorann Mitchell, Licensed Clinical Social Worker: "The most significant thing that happens in betrayal is we end up having trouble trusting ourselves."

In the Hacking case, Lori's family didn't know about Mark's lies and betrayals until it was too late.

Dorann Mitchell: "Often we, in the name of our love and care and concern for another person, overlook the red flags."

But the book's co-authors say if you keep your eyes open, you can always see signs.

Bettyanne Bruin, Co-Author of "Shattered": "Defensiveness. In a normal, healthy relationship, a person should be able to ask a reasonable question and get a reasonable answer."

A betrayer may also rationalize his or her behavior, manipulate or transfer guilt.

Bettyanne Bruin: "They actually turn it around and say, you think I have a problem. You have a bigger problem."

These women say they've been betrayed themselves and it is possible to heal.

Fay Klingler: "Life can become sweet again."

Thelma Soares wrote one of the forewords to this book. In it she said her heart goes out to all those who find themselves in a situation like Lori's and hoped they had the courage and fortitude to take the steps to protect themselves against betrayal.