Shattered: Six Steps from Betrayal to Recovery
Table of Contents

Foreword by Thelma Soares (mother of Lori Hacking, whose life ended because of betrayal)

Foreword by Rita Smith (executive director, National Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

Acknowledgments                                                                                       

Introduction                                                                                                   

Chapter One, Awareness

Ask to see things as they really are. Trust your instinct. Acknowledge reality. Look for the signs.

Chapter Two, Acceptance

Acknowledge and accept your reality and take responsibility for your future. Emotionally disconnect.
Recognize patterns of behavior. Manage your fear and anger.

Chapter Three, Action

Get on your knees and ask for God’s blessings and direction, then stand on your feet and do what is right.
Act, don’t just react. Consider what you want from the confrontation. Consider where you will confront.
Consider when you will confront. Consider how you will confront. Observe quietly. Set reasonable limits. Consider how you will evaluate the confrontation. Try again. Ensure your safety. Take the risk of making
life better. Rely on God. Trust what you know to be true.

Chapter Four, Authorization

Give yourself permission to talk, to listen, to rebuild trust, and to act with confidence. Share your
experience with family. Share your experience with friends. Write your experience in a journal. Look to
others for support. Develop faith in God. Trust and care for yourself. Seek professional help when
necessary. Rebuild your trust in mankind.

Chapter Five, Accountability

In fairness, hold yourself and others accountable, and free yourself through forgiveness so you can
visualize beyond your past and look with hope into the possibilities of the future. Own your part in the
betrayal. Develop your bill of rights. Hold others accountable. Forgive the other person. Forgive yourself.

Chapter Six, Advancement

With belief in yourself, take charge of your life, and chart a new course to advance and bloom. Visualize
your camp. Control the outcome. Follow a plan. Commit time and effort. Create balance. Believe in
yourself. Lighten your load. Serve others. Keep your perspective.

Epilogue   

Suggested Reading List

About the Authors